It's that time of the year. Days are short, dark and cold. It is easier to feel low and struggle against the passing winter nights. I want to write about reaching out for help and support.
It is a little bit similar to what I wrote about last week, encouraging to seek happiness outside the comfort zone. I feel the need to raise awareness of how lonely it can get when you're turning self-employed. Especially during winter months. It's not the happiest post I will ever write but it's a neccessary one. So the question is how do you reach out to people in times of need?
Mental health is one of the most important aspects of our jobs as entrepreneurs. As days go by we encounter stress from competition, doubts about self-worth and a constant state of not having enough time to complete the 'to do' list (not to mention how money affects us all). I am so happy that in our community of wedding photographers we have a chance to open up and to talk about the struggles. But what about the people who don't have that community or people who are afraid to share it out in public?
Feeling low or depressed is still uncomfortable to talk about no matter how much awareness there is out there. It can be incredulous to think that someone would actually care or even listen. I haven't suffered from depression but I have experienced it through others. It's heartbreaking and lonely. It is also quite unfortunate that it is more common than we think yet brushing the subject off is still a normal practice.
I know that some of us, in my community, are trying our best to implement a friendly encouragement for people to talk about it. It is not as embarrassing as people who feel low or depressed may think. So how do you approach people if you need someone to talk about? How do you forget that silly idea that if you open up you'll be considered weak?
I used to think that reaching out and going for a networking cup of coffee is helping. But I never said, 'Hey, I'm feeling low, I'd love to chat if you're around.' Being straightforward is the only way to get out there and to stop feeling lonely.
You don't have to do it alone. I feel lonely too and I will most likely have to take my own advice on reaching out at times. But if you need someone to talk to, don't be afraid to ask, it's not a sign of weakness. Talking to people saves lives.
Just imagine this, if a cup of coffee with someone could save your life, wouldn't you want to reach out?
Be brave, life has seasons of rainfall and sunshine. I know I'm being cliché but it will get better and back down again and back up again. I have faith in you.